Comments on: The Dream Tells the Truth http://www.peacebang.com/2005/06/13/the-dream-tells-the-truth/ The manic mind of the minister -- Auntie Mame Meets Cotton Mather Wed, 07 Jan 2009 01:53:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Jessica Alexander http://www.peacebang.com/2005/06/13/the-dream-tells-the-truth/#comment-535 Jessica Alexander Wed, 06 Jul 2005 13:23:00 +0000 http://www.peacebang.com/2005/06/13/the-dream-tells-the-truth/#comment-535 Oh, mercy, yes, to witness infidelity, cheating, the abandonment of vows rips a wound in the soul ... the hardest part of what I do as an STD test-result counselor is dealing with the fallout from infidelity and people on the "down-low". The pain it causes is incredible, and I'm not talking about the herpes lesions. As someone on the phone to provide help and answers (where can I get treatment for this? when am I contagious? can I die from this?) keeping the horror and grief out of my voice, which I'm obliged to do as a professional, when I know that the person I'm talking to has "stepped outside the relationship" (I hate that euphemism) is only possible because I've practiced and practiced and practiced my "calm, neutral" voice. Other counselors have chastised me for being judgmental in regards to people who are unfaithful to their spouses. I've heard all the reasons, I understand the variety of complexities that relationships can have. It's not that I wish for a person who has betrayed their vows to be punished (certainly not by STDs) but that I wish that they had not abused the trust of their spouse, that they had honored their vows, and it's a misery to know that a person could do this without shame. Oh, mercy, yes, to witness infidelity, cheating, the abandonment of vows rips a wound in the soul … the hardest part of what I do as an STD test-result counselor is dealing with the fallout from infidelity and people on the “down-low”. The pain it causes is incredible, and I’m not talking about the herpes lesions. As someone on the phone to provide help and answers (where can I get treatment for this? when am I contagious? can I die from this?) keeping the horror and grief out of my voice, which I’m obliged to do as a professional, when I know that the person I’m talking to has “stepped outside the relationship” (I hate that euphemism) is only possible because I’ve practiced and practiced and practiced my “calm, neutral” voice. Other counselors have chastised me for being judgmental in regards to people who are unfaithful to their spouses. I’ve heard all the reasons, I understand the variety of complexities that relationships can have. It’s not that I wish for a person who has betrayed their vows to be punished (certainly not by STDs) but that I wish that they had not abused the trust of their spouse, that they had honored their vows, and it’s a misery to know that a person could do this without shame.

]]> By: Chalicechick http://www.peacebang.com/2005/06/13/the-dream-tells-the-truth/#comment-534 Chalicechick Mon, 13 Jun 2005 19:15:23 +0000 http://www.peacebang.com/2005/06/13/the-dream-tells-the-truth/#comment-534 If you're good with dreams, could you tell me what it means to dream that one is on a conveyor belt with factory workers taking peices out of one and adding things?<br/><br/>I dreamt that just last night and have come up with two possible interpretations:<br/><br/>1. I'm a work in progress and sometimes the progress sucks.<br/><br/>2. Eating mexican and then coming home and falling asleep is a bad idea.<br/><br/>SLSW If you’re good with dreams, could you tell me what it means to dream that one is on a conveyor belt with factory workers taking peices out of one and adding things?

I dreamt that just last night and have come up with two possible interpretations:

1. I’m a work in progress and sometimes the progress sucks.

2. Eating mexican and then coming home and falling asleep is a bad idea.

SLSW

]]> By: fausto http://www.peacebang.com/2005/06/13/the-dream-tells-the-truth/#comment-533 fausto Mon, 13 Jun 2005 16:28:20 +0000 http://www.peacebang.com/2005/06/13/the-dream-tells-the-truth/#comment-533 And it's not just you. Check out the marriage ceremony in the Episcopal Book of Common Prayer, for example. There are not two "I do's" (actually in the BCP verison it's "I will"), but three. The husband and wife each pledge themselves to each other, and then the entire congregation pledges to support the new couple in their marriage, all in nearly the same breath. And it’s not just you. Check out the marriage ceremony in the Episcopal Book of Common Prayer, for example. There are not two “I do’s” (actually in the BCP verison it’s “I will”), but three. The husband and wife each pledge themselves to each other, and then the entire congregation pledges to support the new couple in their marriage, all in nearly the same breath.

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